There are some couples who are exactly alike. Maybe you know a couple… maybe you’re half of that couple. They like the same music, the same hobbies, their personalities are pretty similar, and they do that sitcom-my emerge from the bedroom Ha! We’re both wearing gray and blue today. Twinsies! :) :) :)
Jack and I… are not like that at all. We sometimes struggle to find out what we have in common. On road trips, he’ll be listening to his pop-rock combo (I don’t even know what that means), and I’ll have my earbuds in, listening to Crunk Jams. I write; he musics (not a verb). He likes freshly grated parmesan on everything; I don’t want to be within six feet of it. He loves the Food Network; I love eating food.
All of that said, we both discovered that we like being active. When we were first married, on Saturday mornings we’d often grab our phones and text all of our friends: Football, 2pm, Walker Field, leggo. We’d spend many an afternoon playing football, basketball, soccer, singles tennis or racquetball. Then we discovered that we both have a little bit of a competitive streak, and if we were careless (which was often), we’d end up arguing. Um, you know. Like children.
We’re not even playing offsides.
YOUR FACE IS OFFSIDE.
That actually doesn’t even make sense.
YOUR FACE DOESN’T EVEN MAKE SENSE.
Finally, we got wise (sort of), and decided that for the sake of marital happiness, we’d have to be on the same team when we played a game. Which was nice because then we could high-five or fist bump and generally be nice + encouraging to each other, and also because when two people know each other pretty well, they generally can read each other when playing a sport.
One of my proudest Saturday afternoon moments was when I was 24, overhearing one of Jack’s friends admonish him during a game of football, “Dude, you can’t just throw the heat at your wife like that,” and he was all, “Nah, she can handle it.” and I was all :’) :’) :D :D how ya like me now?
Anyway, now we’re older and we have a million kids or whatever (actually only three), so we’re not able to run out and be as active as we used to. We found a six week ballroom dancing class when I was pregnant with Sophie (super fun), we’ve played in a charity flag football tournament (also super fun), but for the most part, we’re not the super fun + fit couple we were in our early 20s.
A couple of months ago, I subscribed to Blood, Sweat, & Cheers, which is a free daily email that finds fun activities for you + your friends + super competitive spouses. They aren’t obnoxious or spammy, and whoever writes their copy as a pretty on-point sense of humor. (I feel strong feelings about copy.)
What kinds of fun activities? For example, last year a bunch of us did the Color Me Rad 5k, and it was a fantastic time.
If we wanted to look for something like that again (or a Spartan Race or a Bad Prom 5k or an NFL Workout Game <—-those are actual things!), BSC culls all of that info for us and sends to us via email.
Okay, who’s running a Zombie 5k with me? I fell asleep in the middle of World War Z last week, so I think I need to have some closure…
Disclosure: This post has been sponsored by Blood, Sweat, & Cheers.